What does
your heart
actually need?

Structured reflection, powered by behavioural science. Not your mates' opinions.

Gottman · Fisher · Rusbult · Sternberg

What are you figuring out?

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Should I stay?

You're in a relationship and need honest clarity on whether it's worth it.

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Should I go for it?

There's someone — a friend, a crush — and you're wondering whether to make a move.

This tool offers structured reflection, not therapy. If you're in a harmful relationship, please reach out to a professional.

Step 1 of 3 — What matters to you

Add what counts

Choose your criteria

Select what matters most. Tap + to include.

Add your own

Your list 0

Nothing added yet. Pick a few things that matter.

Step 2 of 3 — How much does each matter?

Drag to weight each factor

Set the weights

Not all things are equal. A deal-breaker is worth more than a nice-to-have.

Step 3 of 3 — Be brutally honest

Rate each criterion

Rate them

1 = genuinely terrible. 10 = genuinely excellent. No rounding up because you feel guilty.

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Score breakdown

🔬 What the research says

This is a reflection tool, not a diagnosis. Scores model behavioural science frameworks but can't account for every nuance. Trust your gut too.